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Out of Silence: Abortion Stories from the 1 in 3 CampaignAdele Hampton for the 1 in 3 CampaignBring 1 in 3 to your campus! Download the 1 in 3 Toolkit!

I was in my 30s years old at the time. I had always wanted a baby - eventually - but due to pursuing my education, becoming financially stable, and finding the right partner, the time hadn't previously been right. After separating from my husband at the time, I started seeing someone new. Just three months into our relationship, we found ourselves unintentionally pregnant. I wasn't sure yet where our relationship would head, nor was he. He wasn't sure if he wanted children - ever. He offered to support whatever decision I made, but I knew two things clearly: (1) I wanted to have a baby who was wanted by both of its parents, and (2) more than "wanting a baby" (at any cost), I wanted to have a partner and a stable relationship. I didn't want him to feel like he had to be with me because we were pregnant. I didn't want to be with someone unless they were with me just because they wanted to be. In that sense, it was a fairly easy decision for both of us that we didn't want to have a baby together at that time. The abortion itself was still difficult - not physically, but knowing that we were at a fork in the road and had a difficult choice. But it was the right choice and now 2 years later we are still together and pregnant by choice.

Anonymous

This Saturday marks four weeks since I broke off a five year relationship with my boyfriend, who I had hoped to spend the rest of my life with, and asked him to move out. I am in more emotional pain than I could ever imagine, but it has prompted me to finally share my abortion stories, yes, stories. … read more >

Lizzie

2010: I was 16 years old and my boyfriend and I were in an on again off again relationship for the past year. We had sex without a condom and I missed my period. That December I took a test and it was positive. Neither of us were ready for a kid, I was on the track to graduate and already applied to colleges. We made the decision for an abortion. The nurse made me feel terrible when she asked if I wanted to know if my baby had a heartbeat, I continued with the process and took a pill to abort the baby. It was the worst pain in my life and I regretted it. Months later, my boyfriend and I had broken up for good. Years later, i'm working full time, self sufficient and can hardly get by with my paychecks. I know I made the right choice by not having a child in highschool. I'm from a broken home myself and I do not wish my child to experience the same home life that I had too.

Anonymous

I was 26. We had been together a few short months when my birth control pills failed. I woke up one morning, vomiting, thinking I had the flu. I felt fine the next 2 days, but on the following morning, a Monday, the feeling returned. I took a test to "ease" my mind. Positive. I took another just to make sure. Positive. … read more >

Maggie

1999- I was 23, still a virgin, and had just gotten into the top art school in the country. Shortly into my first year, I met a man and that became my first, serious relationship. We got to the point where he wanted to go without condoms, and he had heard of men being able to give themselves shots in northern Europe, that would kill their sperm count. So, he got hold of the drug from some of his body builder friends and started taking the shots (I watched him do the daily doses). Well, months after the medicine was supposed to take effect, I ended up getting pregnant. There was no way I could handle having a child and still get through art school, so I decided to end my pregnancy. It was the right decision, and I never found myself in that situation again.

Anonymous

I had been happily married for almost 10 years with 2 wonderful children when I found out I was pregnant. Turmoil to make this choice! When I truly explored my deepest feelings, separating the fantasy from reality, I realized I didn't want more children. I love working and I adore spending time with my children, and felt there was no way to do both and keep my sanity while juggling another child. Parenting is a monumental responsibility that should be taken very seriously, for the children's sake. It was so hard to make that decision while under the hormonal state of pregnancy. Although I felt deep sadness about it, I have no doubt it was the right decision. In many ways, it was the more difficult choice. It made me realize that every situation is different, and women have the wisdom to do what is right for them at that point in time. Legally, I don't believe men should have any say whatsoever on the matter.

Megan

I am a 29 year old mother to a beautiful 7 year old girl. She has truly made my life a joy since the day she was born. I could never regret a thing about her existence and have always thought she made me better than I was before having her. … read more >

Jessica

Our son was two and we were ready to add on to our family. I became pregnant after our first try and we were very excited. I was a little nervous about my “advanced age” as I was 36 going on 37, but otherwise I felt good. … read more >

Jessica

I was 23 and in the worst days of my life. I was confused about what i wanted from life and i was living in a place where those who surrounded me had a great influence on me. My social life was at full blossom and I was living life young wild and free. … read more >

Anonymous

My boyfriend and me have a 4 year old daughter, and just recently had our 5 month old baby girl. We also have full custody of his child from a previous marriage. I just recently quit breastfeeding and knew I would be fertile again. We were very careful and figuring out who was going to get fixed. We decided on him and the procrastinating begun. … read more >

Anonymous

I had been married for 3 years and was beginning my final year of university. After removing my nuva ring I waited and waited for my period. We took a test just to prove that it was nothing, that second line was so faded and unclear we told our selves that we were OK. Then the fatigue started, with the sore breasts and the nausea... After another test nearly a week later we got a positive result. … read more >

Anonymous

I had just been accepted into a University after a hard year with my father and step mother and moving out suddenly to get away from them. I was 19 years old living with my boyfriend of 2 almost 3 years when I found out that I was pregnant. … read more >

Anonymous

I'm a freshman in college, 18 years old and had no idea what I'd gotten myself into. It was late fall and as football season winded down I met a nice guy. The night we met ended in our first time having sex and our relationship continued for a couple of months on that basis. … read more >

Isabella

I was 17 years old, and had been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We were young and dumb, and I never thought I would actually get pregnant. I was very wrong. … read more >

Anonymous

The condom broke. I felt it and I knew. The next week, I went to the clinic at college and did a stick pregnancy test. It came back positive. I was 20 and not ready to be pregnant, but the condom had broken. … read more >

Ra

I was 31 years old and happily married to a supportive husband. We were trying to conceive, and after 9 long months, I was finally pregnant. We were both very excited and looking forward to a new addition to the family. … read more >

Anonymous

It was my junior year in high school and I was 17 years old,A and B honor roll student and,I had been with my boyfriend for about 5 years that year. The day before Valentines day, year of 2015, I had found out I was pregnant,the first person I told was him, he was thrilled, I on the other hand was not. … read more >

Anonymous

I'm an only child. I'm pretty sure my mom didn't want me. Even through this hard truth, she still remains the love of my life. She described my conception as a 'planned accident'. My dad wanted a litter and my mom wanted none. … read more >

Anonymous

Everything happened more a year ago. I was dating a guy everything was going well it wasn't until we moved in together that the emotional and physical abuse started. I have a beautiful and healthy almost 5 year old from a previous relationship. I regret putting her through all of the horrible things she went through. … read more >

Anonymous

I'd been on the pill for 20 years and wanted to stop just to see what my body and moods would feel without the steady stream of hormones. I considered getting my tubes tied, but that seemed like a lot of surgery for not that many years of fertility left. … read more >

Anonymous

It really pisses me off that I feel the need to label myself here as anonymous, but due to living at my conservative Christian parent's house (even at the age of 30), I will have to continue hiding this. I am dying to tell my story, share my story, talk to others, connect. Today is Tuesday and last Saturday, I had a surgical abortion. It wasn't an easy decision, but I know wholeheartedly it was the right one. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 21 and a student. It was the first time I had ever had unprotected sex; I was usually so careful and I didn't think once would be a problem. … read more >

Anonymous

As I read through these stories, there was one medical term I was rather surprised not to hear. Hyperemesis Gravidarum. For anyone not knowing what that is, it's an extreme form of morning sickness, debilitating, retching, malnutrition causing, misery-inducing sickness. Mine was never officially diagnosed, but I lost 20 pounds within weeks with both of my children. … read more >

Brittani

I think the most important thing everyone wants to hear is how the abortion happened, what it felt like and how I feel now. Well I just recently got the abortion less than 24 hours ago. … read more >

Jazz

Abortion was a word that put fright and horror in people like the name 'boogieman' was supposed to in children. … read more >

Sondra

I was 16 years old when I became pregnant by an emotionally abusive boyfriend. … read more >

Anonymous

At 38 yrs old I finally was divorced but not free from my ex. We shared custody of our two sons and I got pregnant after beginning sexually assaulted by my him. Unfortunately, not a rare occurrence even after the marriage ended but not something the probate court was willing to consider when granting custody because as a dad he was so involved with his sons. … read more >

Jules

I was a sophomore in college when I found out I was pregnant. I took the test on a whim; I had been having cramps for about a week and had a seriously heightened sense of smell, but my period hadn't come. I remember feeling numb when I saw the positive result--I couldn't quite decide how I felt. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 21 years old and facing the darkest period of my young life. I knew in my subconscious the moment I became pregnant but couldn't begin to face. At the time I was involve with a man that was 10 years my senior, still married and hiding a severe drug problem. I know what you’re thinking… but I thought he could change, clean up and truly love me. A young, naïve dream of love when the reality was this was all going down in flames. … read more >

Jessica

Finding out: I found out I was pregnant Monday, February 9, 2014 at a clinic nearby my work. Before giving me a pregnancy test, the doctor assured me I probably was not pregnant. However, I think many of us women just know we are pregnant. I was worried for about two weeks prior to finally heading to the doctor. Anyway, the doctor from the clinic recommended me to the Willow Women's Clinic, a well known clinic in Vancouver, B.C. When I told my Boyfriend, he was surprised, and honestly a little immature about it – but we can’t be too hard on him or any of our other partners (who have never been pregnant) because it truly is such a strange thing to create a life, mix DNA, etc. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 29 years old, in an abusive relationship and using drugs to cope, far away from my friends and family and found out I was pregnant in my second trimester. … read more >

Anonymous

I had an abortion today, and it's the last thing I ever thought I would do. I have two sons who are soon turning 5 and 2, and I co-own and operate a business in the health care industry. I track my cycle. I know the day of my last period and my ovulation signs. My husband and I usually use condoms, but we didn't on day 30 of my cycle, and that happened to be one cycle when I ovulated very, very late. … read more >

Sarah

Tenia 28 años, un hombre bueno y comprensivo como esposo y un hermoso hijo de tres años. Habia logrado obtener el trabajo que siempre desee y por fin ese año que apenas comenzaba se veia prospero y lleno de proyectos hasta que el preservativo se rompio. … read more >

Anónimo

I was 28 years old and had a good husband and a beautiful three year old son. I had managed to get the job I always wanted, and finally this year looked prosperous and full of projects until the condom broke. Since my son was born, my husband and I used protection successfully. We were always careful and occasionally talked about the possibility of having another baby in a few years. … read more >

Anonymous

I am 30 years old and just had an abortion last week. It was not a difficult decision; as soon as I saw the pregnancy test I knew I could not have this child. … read more >

Danielle

I woke up that morning, like any other morning, giving no thought to the day ahead of me. For a few moments, I could only think about stumbling over to the coffee maker and in to the shower. I rubbed my eyes as the coffee dripped in to the cup, and I remembered that in a few hours, I would be at Planned Parenthood for my abortion. … read more >

Hannah

I was 22 when I was faced with making the hardest and most difficult decision of my life. It all started after my Christmas vacation. I started noticing after returning home and back to work that I was extremely constipated and bloated. I went in for an appointment because nothing I was doing was helping me and she asked me if I was pregnant. … read more >

Jesse

I had an abortion in October of 2014. After being a single parent for 10 years, I didn't want to do it all over again. … read more >

Anonymous

I had just turned 30. I was content, healthy and in a somewhat stable relationship (that dissolved not long after the event). I had a job in finance for the government and I had recently relocated from Australia to New Zealand. Like most of my friends, I acted as if I was still 19 and my ‘things to do’ list was as long as my shopping list. I had just discovered I am 6 weeks pregnant, but I decided immediately to not keep the baby. … read more >

Sally

I got pregnant at the age of 19, I had two jobs and was a full time student. I lived in a small southern town, and didn’t even realize that abortion was a real option or how to even go about getting one. The father had a decent job and was willing to settle down and raise a baby with me. So, I quit school (vowing to one day go back) and had a baby girl shortly after my 20th birthday. Well, the father settled down just long enough to move me far from my family and strand me and my newborn in a strange new town. So, there I was – a single mom with a half-finished degree, no real support system, and too much pride to go back home and live with my Mom. … read more >

Heather

I had an abortion at 19 I had been with my boyfriend for a year but we had been on and off since 16 I was shattered when I found out thought "how could this happen to me" but safe sex was my responsibility. Straight away I knew what I was going to do this was the right thing to do for my circumstances. I am so grateful to those powerful women that fought for my choice. Although this was a regrettable situation my decision was and still is not something I regret. It was surely a learning experience an experience so many women before and after me will have gone through. I am not a murderer nor am I evil. I made a wise choice and god loves me abundantly that I know for sure. Everyone makes mistakes but I am proud to be a woman and that I had the opportunity to decide on what was to happen with my body.

Anonymous

I was in a fight with my boyfriend when I had found out I was pregnant. I knew we were potentially on the verge of a breakup. I chalked up the feeling ill, sleepy, and dazed to being stressed out. However, I decided to buy a test when I threw up making dinner the one evening. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 18 and I had no idea that I was pregnant. I had been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, but for the previous 6 months our relationship had been rocky. In the summer after my final exams I went on a girls holiday and he went on a holiday with his friends, throughout the holiday I felt nauseous, but I put it down to the alcohol, heat and foreign food. … read more >

Anonymous

It was April 2014. I was 22 and I had just moved from Michigan to Arizona, fresh out of college. It was Easter and I was 2,000 miles away from my family. I had met a guy online the day before. He came over and we started drinking with my roommate and her girlfriend. We slept together. … read more >

Sarah

I waited until I was 18 to have sex and was certain that I knew everything I needed to know. My mom was very open, I read the all the books, and had some sex education in high school. What I wasn't prepared for was getting involved with a really good liar. … read more >

Gina

I was 34. I feel it is very important for me to tell my story because I had a very hard time finding stories like mine when I got pregnant accidentally, over 2 years ago. … read more >

Anonymous

Tomorrow makes two weeks since I had my abortion. I am a 24 year old student pursuing a PharmD while simultaneously working a part-time job in a pharmaceutical setting. I have a loving, supportive fiance who has also become my closest friend in the time we've been together. I've been raised by an extremely liberal family, so it's only natural that I developed prochoice sentiments. However, exercising those prochoice rights was never something I believed would happen. … read more >

S

I was 22 years old and was in my 2nd semester of my lab tech program. I was in (still am) this wonderful relationship with my boyfriend. Everything was falling into plan until one day, I noticed my boobs were UNBEARABLE to touch and my boyfriend jokingly said "you should take a pregnancy test, and watch it be positive". … read more >

Kayla

As a full time nanny, I've seen everything it takes to be good parents. I look at parenting as an important choice. One to be taken seriously after emotional preparation, financial planning, and a stabilized life. … read more >

Rachel

I am 40 years old and have been pregnant 6 times in my life. I have a wonderful, supportive husband of 10 years and 4 beautiful boys. That means two of my pregnancies were not carried to term. … read more >

Anonymous

This is my story; the story of a healthy 32-year-old woman who decided to terminate her pregnancy. You may ask why as a woman in her thirties I chose not to go ahead with the pregnancy and keep the baby, and that is a valid question. There were no health issues with regards to my pregnancy; the fetus probably would have grown into a healthy child, and there were no risks with regards to my own health. There was no trauma associated with the pregnancy; the sex was consensual and with a man I had been dating for some time and cared a great deal for. … read more >

Marni

I had an abortion during my third year of college. I was an out-of-state student who was working hard to pay my own way through school. I had a boyfriend at the time. Having an abortion made sense for me and I do not regret it at all. Today, I am married (to a different, wonderful man). I have a professional job which I love and we plan on having children within the next couple of years. If I had a child during school, I definitely wouldn't be where I am today. It may have taken me longer to finish and I may have had to settle for a different career. I couldn't be happier with my life, and my abortion made that possible.

Amber

Tengo 23 años, soy de una familia de clase media y sufro de depresion endogena. Quede embarazada a los 15 años, en Chile en aborto no es legal ni tampoco tenia dinero asi que tube que tener a mi hija. … read more >

Nicole

My boyfriend and I had been very lax on protection and said that if we ever happen to get pregnant we would raise the child since we are both in our late 20's and early thirties respectively and had the financial & insurance means to do so. … read more >

Kim

I was pregnant with my second child and was so happy. In my mind I had no reason to believe there would be any problems, but I got a rude awakening at my 12 week ultrasound. … read more >

Kim

I had an abortion at 18. I was neither emotionally, physically, or financially capable of raising a child. … read more >

Anonymous

I had an abortion at 16 weeks. I was 27. My boyfriend and I had just bought a house. Having a child was not planned, but we were not avoiding having children. So I got pregnant. Then I got dengue. I also, was not taking care of myself. … read more >

Isabel

My first pregnancy was at 16 yrs old, and I knew it was wrong. I didn't have an abortion because my religious mother cried to me not to. I was a child, I made a mistake that I didn't know any better about, but I went on with the pregnancy. After that I was adamant about knowing everything about birth control and sexual health since it really wasn't offered at school. I spent a lot of time at Planned Parenthood, they're my saviors. … read more >

Nohemi

At age 35, while in an abusive marriage with two kids, I became pregnant unexpectedly. There had been a conflict in the marriage, and to prove my commitment, I allowed him to have unprotected sex with me. … read more >

Holly

I was 40 years old. I had already grieved 4 miscarriages. I suffered years of pelvic pain and depression afterward. I thought I'd put the question of parenting behind me when I discovered that I was pregnant again, but this time without a supportive relationship. … read more >

Sarah

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