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textAdele Hampton for the 1 in 3 CampaignBring 1 in 3 to your campus! Download the 1 in 3 Toolkit!

I had an abortion the summer after I graduated college when I was 21. Before I decided what I wanted to do, I went to a religious clinic to make sure I was pregnant from an ultrasound and because I didn't have healthcare at the time. When there, all I heard were reasons why I should keep or give the baby up for adoption. They even gave me pamphlets on every possible thing that could go wrong with an abortion(which was pretty terrifying of course). I'm Catholic, and graduated from a Catholic University, and I was highly aware of why I should and shouldn't have done what I did. However, what gave me the most sleepless nights were the nights thinking about keeping the baby. Although I had a degree, and was 21 years old, I still had barely any job experience in my career field, my boyfriend of 3 years also had no job or was finding any luck with finding a job. We were both living with our parents. I was aware that what I pictured for my first child isn't always what happens in life, but I also strongly believed although the baby would've gotten all the love in the world, it still wouldn't have gotten the life it deserved. We only wanted the best for our child and nothing else. Choosing to go through with the abortion was not my initial choice though. When I went to the abortion clinic the first time and saw my ultrasound at a little over 7 weeks, I had this gut feeling that I couldn't end the precious life inside of me. I personally told myself if I wasn't able to do the medical pill abortion, I wasn't going to do it. So the money that I had from graduation gifts, I spent so I couldn't change my mind. Later, I ended up talking to a relative, and he ended up supporting my initial thought about continuing the abortion no matter what. He ended up loaning me the money, and I planned the day for the procedure. My boyfriend didn't even have money to drive up to that appointment, so I had to ask a friend who I hadn't seen in years to take me (who he actually took his ex gf for her abortion also). The day of the abortion, I was a little over 10 weeks, and the aspiration procedure happened very quickly. The day of the procedure, I took some pills right before, when in the operation room they gave me a mild sedative to calm my nerves, the doctor came in and did what he had to do and it was over in less than a minute. It felt like all the pressure was released from my stomach, and morning sickness went away immediately also. When I was moved to the waiting room, I just started crying because I had such mixed emotions. I was sad for myself choosing to really end the life inside of me, and at the same time I was relieved this entire process was over. The doctor who did the procedure came back to check on me, and I couldn't help but tell him thank you. Later on that day, physically I was perfectly fine. Everything healed properly, all I had were leaky breasts for a week. Emotionally, I was weak. I cried almost every night for a week. I was mad and felt distant with God for awhile because I wondered why the only time I had sex unprotected after 3 years with the man I planned on marrying when we had the money and the career, why was I ready to have the baby then? Why couldn't He just not have had the egg and sperm meet? But even now, I still am trying to ask God for His forgiveness, and ask my unborn baby for their forgiveness. To this day I'm still sorry for what I did, but I still know in my heart it was for the best. Before my abortion, I was against abortion the moment the organs formed, but when I had my abortion, the organs were already formed and I could see distinctive shapes at my 10 weeks ultrasound right before I did my abortion(that's what hurts the most). Currently, I support abortion and woman's right to choose, because without my choice, I wouldn't be able to continue the education that I need for my career and bettering myself for when my bf and I are financially ready for a child. I am now aware that any abortion is never an easy choice, no one really ever wants to have an abortion, but there needs to be more support for the after care of an abortion. I know so many women that advocate that if you have an abortion you will go to hell and you should die since you're a murderer but that's not the case ! I've been Catholic my entire life, but just because of what I did does not make me a Catholic, in fact it's going to make my connection stronger with God, knowing that no matter what decision I decide to do, He will be with us along the way. My advice to people in a similar situation, having a baby is a lifelong commitment and will be hard and the most precious gift you can receive, and having an abortion will also be something difficult you'll have to live with for the rest of your life also. But in your heart, you know what you really want, you know what you believe will be the best decision for your life and the baby's.

Anonymous

I am currently a Single Mother of 2 Little Boys (ages 4 & 18 months); with sole custody of both. In short, my current situation: I am a part time pre-Nursing student and a full-time Mother. I am currently unable to financially provide for my boys (without help) and several years ago when I had my firstborn child, I was given the option to move back in with my parents verses an assisted housing unit, so I did. … read more >

Marie

I am 26 years old right now and i just found out i am pregnant. My boyfriend and i have only been together for 3 months and we are just not ready to have a baby yet so soon into our relationship. … read more >

Anonymous

When I was 15, I had a sleep over with 2 girls who were daughters of a friend of my parents. We were not friends. 1 was a year older than me, 1 a year younger. At some point in the evening we reached the point of "one upsmanship" and started telling tales. … read more >

Deidre

In college, I had two abortions within six months. The father was 10 years older and not in love with me. Nine years later, I certainly don't regret the abortions. I just regret being that careless in the first place.

Anonymous

In October of 2013 my girlfriend and I became pregnant. She and I had made the decision to stop using birth control, and though our relationship had been on and off for the better part of a decade, we had reached a point in our lives that we thought we would be able to bring a child into this world. … read more >

Jesse

I had an abortion 5 years ago when i was 22. I was a single mother of a 5 month old son living at my mother's house and working at a gas station. … read more >

Tabitha

I have had two abortions. I am now 44 years old, with three children, and I do not regret my decisions. … read more >

Sherri

I was 20 and had been with my boyfriend for over a year when birth control failed. As college students, we both knew we were not ready to become parents. My boyfriend, who was adopted, always told me that if we were to become pregnant, he would only support adoption. Knowing that he wouldn't be a supportive parent, nor a supportive partner at the abortion, I chose to keep the pregnancy a secret and to to my abortion alone. … read more >

Anonymous

I had an abortion 2 years ago. I was lucky to detect it very early on and even more lucky to live in a state (NY) where I was able to easily make an appointment at my local Planned Parenthood. Because I caught it so early, I was able to have a medical abortion. … read more >

Naomi

I am not sure why I am telling this story. I don't even know what to make of it myself. Maybe because I don't hear a lot of stories like mine. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 33. I had a 3 year old daughter. My marriage was shaky. He didn't want any more children. I had an IUD to prevent pregnancy, but somehow I got pregnant. … read more >

Irene

I had an abortion in 2002, in India, in a hospital, with pre/post-op just like any other procedure. … read more >

Anne

My story is very unremarkable. I was 20 years old and got pregnant by my boyfriend, someone whom I knew I would not be with forever. … read more >

Nora

I was 48 and married. Our daughter had just started her first year at college. I was too old for birth control pills, and after my IUD had spontaneously, and painfully, come out, I was back on the diaphragm. … read more >

Sonia

I was 22 years old -- q college educated girl from a conservative home. I had been to the doctor and my mom had allowed me to get birth control to "regulate my period" which was code for her being the type of mom that wanted to make sure I was covered even though she didn't want to encourage me to be sexually active. I've always been an inconsistent person. I took the pill but I messed it up here and there by forgetting. … read more >

Nadia

I had just turned 18. I was living fast and loose -- I had dropped out of high school before graduation. I had just recently gotten a full time job, but had no money or bank account. My boyfriend had just gone to jail for a 5 year sentence and I was living with my boyfriend's mother. … read more >

Anonymous

I was born in mexico and raised extremely religious so abortion was out of the question for me, that is until I became pregnant at the age of 20. … read more >

Anonymous

It was 5 years ago. I was single, working two jobs, and trying to stay on top of my mountain of student loan debt. Birth control was not on my mind at that point because I worked all the time and I didn't have a steady boyfriend let alone time to date. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 25 years old and was backpacking around the world with my boyfriend after we graduated from college. When I got pregnant, it was not a complicated decision for me. We loved each other but were just not ready for kids, emotionally or financially. … read more >

Claudia

I was 19 and in an emotionally abusive relationship. I stayed with this person for over a year while saving money and planning out how to leave. He was never physically abusive but very jealous, possessive, and had beaten up a past boyfriend because I talked to him at Walmart and another person saw. We were using condoms but I became pregnant. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 18 and just graduated high school. I had a four-year, full-ride scholarship to a great, private college. I was having unsafe sex because I was young and believed that antiquated forms of birth control would work. They didn't. I got pregnant. … read more >

Lindi

I used to think my dad spanked me because I was bad. I used to think it was my fault that I was molested. I used to think it was my fault that boys didn't like me, even when I had sex with them. … read more >

Gizella

I have always been pro-choice, because I believe it's nobody's business what a woman decides to do with her body. I never thought I would get one, since I am an adult and fully capable of raising a child. That is until late last year. … read more >

Anonymous

Today is 8/1/2015 and it is a day after my abortion. I am a 25 yr old mother of 2. I have a 3yr old and 11month old. I never thought I would have an abortion. I don't judge, but personally I never had a reason that was so bad that I would ever do it. My kids' dad is incarcerated and I still want my family. … read more >

Anonymous

It was seven years ago, I was 25. I still have the questionnaire from the doctors visit. One question asked "Do you want to be pregnant? Yes/No." I put an X through both. … read more >

Anonymous

I've been pro choice since I was old enough to understand the politics of abortion. I found out I was pregnant at 18 and made the decision to parent. I felt capable, and I was ok with the idea of being a mom. Fast forward 7 years later. I am unemployed after leaving a high stress job months earlier and have failed to find employment even after returning to school. I am in a new relationship with a wonderful man. And I find out I am pregnant. … read more >

Mandy

I am in the unenviable position of having had both an abortion, & a child I placed for adoption. I can unequivocally say that I wish everyday that I had also terminated that second unplanned pregnancy but because of my alcoholism, I was in jail in a state that did not allow inmates to have abortions. … read more >

Nicole

I never expected I would have an abortion. I supported it being a legal procure, but out of a sense of ethics and feminism, not because I expected to need one. I was 30 years old and had two children -- a 3 year old and a 4 month old -- when my husband failed to pull out and put on a condom. I had not gotten an IUD after the birth of our second child because he said he would get a vasectomy, but he delayed. A few weeks later I got a positive pregnancy test. … read more >

Anonymous

I didn't realize I was pregnant until I was at least 9 weeks. I've been off and on birth control pills since I was 15 and am now 21, I'd never gotten pregnant before and actually started to wonder whether I was even fertile because I wasn't always the best at taking my pills on time... … read more >

Jordan

I was 18. Despite the "usual" rhetoric (which I think sometimes is more rhetoric than fact) it wasn't a hard decision, it wasn't a life changing decision. I did not fret it, or regret it. It was right for me. it was a blessing. … read more >

Tanya

I am 1 in 3. The school system in which I was enrolled offered absolutely no sex-education. I was raised by my grandparents after my mom died. The closest thing we had to a sex talk we had was when I started my period. I was told was that tampons would kill me and that I should bury my used sanitary pads at the bottom of the trash can, so the dog wouldn't get them. While now this sounds comical, I assure you that when I ended up pregnant, it was no laughing matter. … read more >

Sherry

I was 12 when I first became pregnant. I had just lost my virginity and had moved with my father. I was used to guys making advances at me, as I had just recently began to grow a body. I started having sex with multiple guys in the neighborhood and soon after moved back with my mom. She knew I was pregnant immediately and insisted I get an abortion. … read more >

Anonymous

I'm 22 years old and about to start my fifth and last year of college. I broke up with my boyfriend a little more than 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant. … read more >

Anonymous

The first time I got pregnant I felt like my life was over. I felt like my heart went down to my knees. But, I knew I was not ready to have a child. … read more >

Krissia

I have been pregnant 7 times--had 2 abortions, then a child, then another abortion, then another child, then a 5-month-along miscarriage, then my last child, and I got my tubes tied at age 34. My first abortion was in 1973--abortion had just been made legal. … read more >

Mari

I got pregnant at 17 and knew for sure I wasn't keeping the baby. It was the summer and I just got done with my junior year of high school. I had a lot I still wanted to do with my life and school wise I wasn't even done with high school. … read more >

Anonymous

My husband and I have a son together who is still an infant and we are still young and figuring our lives out. We found out I was pregnant unexpectedly and chose a medical abortion because we knew we only wanted one child for now and did not want to put ourselves or our son into debt. … read more >

Amanda

At 17 years old I encountered an unexpected pregnancy. Struggling with severe depression I had made the decision to terminate my pregnancy. … read more >

Anonymous

I will never forget discovering your website. I stumbled upon it not long after my son taught me how to use Twitter. I was overwhelmed with gratitude to find all of these brave voices being lifted up. I am 55 years old and lived in silence for decades after ending two pregnancies in my teens. … read more >

Karen

At 17, I graduated high school early with honors as a student heavily involved with my community. A few months later, I jumped a bigger and more dangerous hurdle: I got out of a 4-year relationship defined by abuse that culminated in repeated intimate partner rape. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 16 years old and it was 1975 (5 years after Roe V Wade) and I was dating a 19 year old who had been sexually active. We started dating in 1974 and I had been able to avoid having sex. When he would ask I would just say no and that was the end of the story. I never had sex before and did not really want to have sex. One day my boyfriend asked to have sex, and again I said "No". This day was different he did not just stop at no. … read more >

Anonymous

My husband and I had been married for just six months when I found out I was pregnant. He was in grad school and working part time; I was working full time. … read more >

Emily

I am currently 18 years old and a college student with a part time job. I live on campus and have been with my boyfriend for almost a full year and all of my first year of college. He is the most genuine and loving guy I've ever met and two years older than me. Him and I began having sex a month into the relationship and after 8 months of on and off birth control use and no condoms, I felt really sick. … read more >

Anonymous

I had an abortion about one month ago. Do I regret it? I don't know yet. … read more >

Daniel

In 1968 abortion was not legal. I was 19, wildly in love by naive and unready to have a child. An abortion was arranged with an MD. … read more >

Anonymous

I started dealing with this guy when I was around 19 years old. We didn't have sex immediately, we waited a few months but once we started we barely ever used protection. … read more >

Anonymous

It was Wednesday, May 6th, 2015 when I found out that I was pregnant. I had been taking birth control religiously for about two years, but it was difficult to get my prescriptions regularly since I moved to a different city for college. The cheapest way to keep my prescription was to drive back and forth every three months to my hometown after calling in for a refill. But one month I waited too late and ran out of pills during the week of my period. … read more >

F

So I'm 30 years old, recently engaged to be married and so happy to be in love with a sweet guy. I'm pretty regular, so when my period didn't come in over a week I started to get nervous. … read more >

Anonymous

I have had three abortions. I was not able to use the pill because of severe side effects, and my Dr. refused an IUD because my bleeding was already so heavy. My first husband refused to use other forms of birth control and insisted on sex. He was abusive, and a substance abuser. … read more >

Anonymous

When I was fifteen, I had my first real "boyfriend," or so I thought. This man (he was 20) was homeless, so he stayed at my house. A few weeks into the relationship, he began to belittle everything about me, from the size of my breasts to the way I acted during sex. … read more >

Anonymous

I had lost my (consensual; I had been raped) virginity to my best friend, and he to me. After that, we thought we were safe - unfortunately, we weren't. … read more >

Anonymous

It was Wednesday 6th of May 2015 that I found out I was pregnant- shock, nervousness and fear consumed me. … read more >

Lee

I was living with my boyfriend, the drug dealer. He hated me using a diaphragm as I would have to stop the action to go and put it in; he didn't like to wait. One time we had unprotected sex at a fertile time and I didn't get pregnant. I started thinking that he smoked so much pot that he was probably sterile, so I quit using birth control. 3 months later I was pregnant. We both agreed to have an abortion, and did the minute I turned 6 weeks gestation. He did go with me and took care of me during the procedure. Looking back, I realize that we were both so immature. I never regretted it. A few years after that, he left me for another woman, and then he ended up in jail. Thank goodness we didn't have that baby.

Nikki

I'm not ashamed. I am happy with my decision. I was 25. Married mother of 2. I had had an m/c 2 years earlier which had made me really sad. My husband and I had hit a rough spot financially. I should have been on BC but it would have costed gas money to get it and we didn't have it. … read more >

M

My idea of a fairytale then is much different from the fairytale life I dream of now... … read more >

Anonymous

I am happily married to the man of my dreams. We had had the staying child-free discussion before and we were in accord. We have been very safe and never had unprotected sex. Two and a half years of being married, we found out I was pregnant. … read more >

Anonymous

It all happened so fast. I've only known the father a little over a month, so I must have gotten pregnant one of the first times we had sex. … read more >

Denise

It's time. I was 24 and my sister had just given birth to her beautiful daughter. I had been having sex with a guy, he said his name was Blue, and I believe that probably the day that Jenny gave birth I conceived with him. … read more >

Katie

I had an abortion a few months ago, at 36. I'd only been seeing the father for a few months when I got pregnant. … read more >

Susanna

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