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I was 21 years old and facing the darkest period of my young life. I knew in my subconscious the moment I became pregnant but couldn't begin to face. At the time I was involve with a man that was 10 years my senior, still married and hiding a severe drug problem. I know what you’re thinking… but I thought he could change, clean up and truly love me. A young, naïve dream of love when the reality was this was all going down in flames. … read more >


Finding out: I found out I was pregnant Monday, February 9, 2014 at a clinic nearby my work. Before giving me a pregnancy test, the doctor assured me I probably was not pregnant. However, I think many of us women just know we are pregnant. I was worried for about two weeks prior to finally heading to the doctor. Anyway, the doctor from the clinic recommended me to the Willow Women's Clinic, a well known clinic in Vancouver, B.C. When I told my Boyfriend, he was surprised, and honestly a little immature about it – but we can’t be too hard on him or any of our other partners (who have never been pregnant) because it truly is such a strange thing to create a life, mix DNA, etc. … read more >


I was 29 years old, in an abusive relationship and using drugs to cope, far away from my friends and family and found out I was pregnant in my second trimester. … read more >


I had an abortion today, and it's the last thing I ever thought I would do. I have two sons who are soon turning 5 and 2, and I co-own and operate a business in the health care industry. I track my cycle. I know the day of my last period and my ovulation signs. My husband and I usually use condoms, but we didn't on day 30 of my cycle, and that happened to be one cycle when I ovulated very, very late. … read more >


I was 28 years old and had a good husband and a beautiful three year old son. I had managed to get the job I always wanted, and finally this year looked prosperous and full of projects until the condom broke. Since my son was born, my husband and I used protection successfully. We were always careful and occasionally talked about the possibility of having another baby in a few years. … read more >


I am 30 years old and just had an abortion last week. It was not a difficult decision; as soon as I saw the pregnancy test I knew I could not have this child. … read more >


I woke up that morning, like any other morning, giving no thought to the day ahead of me. For a few moments, I could only think about stumbling over to the coffee maker and in to the shower. I rubbed my eyes as the coffee dripped in to the cup, and I remembered that in a few hours, I would be at Planned Parenthood for my abortion. … read more >


I was 22 when I was faced with making the hardest and most difficult decision of my life. It all started after my Christmas vacation. I started noticing after returning home and back to work that I was extremely constipated and bloated. I went in for an appointment because nothing I was doing was helping me and she asked me if I was pregnant. … read more >


I had an abortion in October of 2014. After being a single parent for 10 years, I didn't want to do it all over again. … read more >


I had just turned 30. I was content, healthy and in a somewhat stable relationship (that dissolved not long after the event). I had a job in finance for the government and I had recently relocated from Australia to New Zealand. Like most of my friends, I acted as if I was still 19 and my ‘things to do’ list was as long as my shopping list. I had just discovered I am 6 weeks pregnant, but I decided immediately to not keep the baby. … read more >


I got pregnant at the age of 19, I had two jobs and was a full time student. I lived in a small southern town, and didn’t even realize that abortion was a real option or how to even go about getting one. The father had a decent job and was willing to settle down and raise a baby with me. So, I quit school (vowing to one day go back) and had a baby girl shortly after my 20th birthday. Well, the father settled down just long enough to move me far from my family and strand me and my newborn in a strange new town. So, there I was – a single mom with a half-finished degree, no real support system, and too much pride to go back home and live with my Mom. … read more >


I had an abortion at 19 I had been with my boyfriend for a year but we had been on and off since 16 I was shattered when I found out thought "how could this happen to me" but safe sex was my responsibility. Straight away I knew what I was going to do this was the right thing to do for my circumstances. I am so grateful to those powerful women that fought for my choice. Although this was a regrettable situation my decision was and still is not something I regret. It was surely a learning experience an experience so many women before and after me will have gone through. I am not a murderer nor am I evil. I made a wise choice and god loves me abundantly that I know for sure. Everyone makes mistakes but I am proud to be a woman and that I had the opportunity to decide on what was to happen with my body.


I was in a fight with my boyfriend when I had found out I was pregnant. I knew we were potentially on the verge of a breakup. I chalked up the feeling ill, sleepy, and dazed to being stressed out. However, I decided to buy a test when I threw up making dinner the one evening. … read more >


I was 18 and I had no idea that I was pregnant. I had been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, but for the previous 6 months our relationship had been rocky. In the summer after my final exams I went on a girls holiday and he went on a holiday with his friends, throughout the holiday I felt nauseous, but I put it down to the alcohol, heat and foreign food. … read more >


It was April 2014. I was 22 and I had just moved from Michigan to Arizona, fresh out of college. It was Easter and I was 2,000 miles away from my family. I had met a guy online the day before. He came over and we started drinking with my roommate and her girlfriend. We slept together. … read more >


I waited until I was 18 to have sex and was certain that I knew everything I needed to know. My mom was very open, I read the all the books, and had some sex education in high school. What I wasn't prepared for was getting involved with a really good liar. … read more >


I was 34. I feel it is very important for me to tell my story because I had a very hard time finding stories like mine when I got pregnant accidentally, over 2 years ago. … read more >


Tomorrow makes two weeks since I had my abortion. I am a 24 year old student pursuing a PharmD while simultaneously working a part-time job in a pharmaceutical setting. I have a loving, supportive fiance who has also become my closest friend in the time we've been together. I've been raised by an extremely liberal family, so it's only natural that I developed prochoice sentiments. However, exercising those prochoice rights was never something I believed would happen. … read more >


I was 22 years old and was in my 2nd semester of my lab tech program. I was in (still am) this wonderful relationship with my boyfriend. Everything was falling into plan until one day, I noticed my boobs were UNBEARABLE to touch and my boyfriend jokingly said "you should take a pregnancy test, and watch it be positive". … read more >


As a full time nanny, I've seen everything it takes to be good parents. I look at parenting as an important choice. One to be taken seriously after emotional preparation, financial planning, and a stabilized life. … read more >


I am 40 years old and have been pregnant 6 times in my life. I have a wonderful, supportive husband of 10 years and 4 beautiful boys. That means two of my pregnancies were not carried to term. … read more >


This is my story; the story of a healthy 32-year-old woman who decided to terminate her pregnancy. You may ask why as a woman in her thirties I chose not to go ahead with the pregnancy and keep the baby, and that is a valid question. There were no health issues with regards to my pregnancy; the fetus probably would have grown into a healthy child, and there were no risks with regards to my own health. There was no trauma associated with the pregnancy; the sex was consensual and with a man I had been dating for some time and cared a great deal for. … read more >


I had an abortion during my third year of college. I was an out-of-state student who was working hard to pay my own way through school. I had a boyfriend at the time. Having an abortion made sense for me and I do not regret it at all. Today, I am married (to a different, wonderful man). I have a professional job which I love and we plan on having children within the next couple of years. If I had a child during school, I definitely wouldn't be where I am today. It may have taken me longer to finish and I may have had to settle for a different career. I couldn't be happier with my life, and my abortion made that possible.


My boyfriend and I had been very lax on protection and said that if we ever happen to get pregnant we would raise the child since we are both in our late 20's and early thirties respectively and had the financial & insurance means to do so. … read more >


I was pregnant with my second child and was so happy. In my mind I had no reason to believe there would be any problems, but I got a rude awakening at my 12 week ultrasound. … read more >


I had an abortion at 18. I was neither emotionally, physically, or financially capable of raising a child. … read more >


I had an abortion at 16 weeks. I was 27. My boyfriend and I had just bought a house. Having a child was not planned, but we were not avoiding having children. So I got pregnant. Then I got dengue. I also, was not taking care of myself. … read more >


My first pregnancy was at 16 yrs old, and I knew it was wrong. I didn't have an abortion because my religious mother cried to me not to. I was a child, I made a mistake that I didn't know any better about, but I went on with the pregnancy. After that I was adamant about knowing everything about birth control and sexual health since it really wasn't offered at school. I spent a lot of time at Planned Parenthood, they're my saviors. … read more >


At age 35, while in an abusive marriage with two kids, I became pregnant unexpectedly. There had been a conflict in the marriage, and to prove my commitment, I allowed him to have unprotected sex with me. … read more >


I was 40 years old. I had already grieved 4 miscarriages. I suffered years of pelvic pain and depression afterward. I thought I'd put the question of parenting behind me when I discovered that I was pregnant again, but this time without a supportive relationship. … read more >


I am currently in my late thirties, single and live in Austin, Texas. My first abortion was when I was 22, still in school, and thought I had law school ahead of me. I was dumb and left town without refilling my BC pill, and thought there was no way my body could respond with an egg after being on the pill for like 5 years. I knew within 2 seconds of finding out I was pregnant what my decision was. Fortunately, I was in school in CA. I had medical insurance, I encountered zero static, protesters or any interference. My Ob/Gyn was mad at me that I made such a dumb mistake. I felt nothing but relief after. I thank the universe every day that there is nothing tying me to the guy who would have been that child's father. One of us would be dead right now (him) and one of us would be in jail (me). My second abortion was maybe five years ago. One night stand, cute guy, many drinks. We used a condom, but very not well. I went to the PP on Ben White. I had to call in a day in advance and they played the shaming script that TX made them play over the phone. I had the medication abortion. I had to take the first pill at the clinic. The rest was at home. Not a pleasant experience, but I just didn’t want to be pregnant. Again, all I feel is relief and gratitude that I had a choice to make. During this procedure, the clinic told me that they found out I had a deformed uterus, and any pregnancies would be very high risk for my health. I am a worst-case scenario for most birth control options on the market. Hormonal birth control makes me very sick; I have tried several different combinations of pills, depo shots, and the Implanon. The results were everything from mood swings, rapid weight gain, migraines and a period that lasted seven months. Because of my uterine deformation all IUDs are out of the question. I have had a condom failure. This past summer I had my tubes tied (endoscopic bilateral tubal ligation). Part of that choice is very much in response to the political climate here in Texas. Again, I am grateful to have the privilege to exercise control over my reproduction. But am deeply angry that I have to mutilate my body in order to regain ownership of my reproductive organs. That is why the fight for reproductive choice is so important for me. Every person should have the same choices and lack of obstacles I have had just because I am a middle-class, white, "educated" first-world woman. Every abortion is different, just like every woman is different. Whether a woman has zero abortions or a dozen, it is her body, her choice. End of discussion. Anything less is not honoring the value of that woman as her own full moral agent. I have zero regrets about either of my abortions. Neither has caused me any sort of long-term harm or psychological damage. My only regret is that I didn't fight like hell against the doctors that told me I was too young at twenty to get sterilized when I first started asking for it.


I'm the woman the politicians don't want you to think about. Stable marriage, decent education, stay at home mother to a five year old, 32 years old and one who desperately wanted more children. … read more >


I was 22 and in a loving relationship with a great guy I thought I'd marry, but this was right as my eyes were starting to open to the person he really was. … read more >


It was early December 2014 and I was a mother to a 5 month old baby boy. Unfortunately contraceptives do fail. I hadn't had my period for at least three months and I was extremely fatigued but I blamed that on being a new mother. I then started having horrible nausea and vomiting but I assumed it was a stomach bug. … read more >


I was 21 when I had my abortion. I just started dating my boyfriend at that time for a few months, we had a rocky relationship due to my personal issues with me and him with substance abuse issues. I have always been paranoid about becoming pregnant after having sex with boyfriends and up till that point my paranoia was abated when I had my period, until the one time my fear came true. … read more >


I had just had a baby in august. A beautiful baby girl. My pregnancy was far then smooth. I was in a abusive relationship and was homeless on and off. My daughter was born perfect though. I ended up getting pregnant again in December with the same abusive man. … read more >


It was the end of winter break when I learned I was pregnant: my first winter break since transferring into an extremely competitive college. I'd spent four years toiling away at community college to transfer and I was reaping the rewards. My boyfriend of three years was only a semester from graduating and I wanted to marry him. When I told him nervously that I was pregnant he looked me in the eyes and said he didn't want it, that he never, EVER wanted children, and didn't I know that already? … read more >


I was not ready to be a parent. At the age of 21, I was still in school and still trying to figure everything out. I still am trying to figure things out. Although sometimes I think about it, its hard to tell people about it. … read more >


I waited for a long time to have sex, holding off many boyfriends, wanting to wait. I was in my 20s, and my relationship with my best friend was evolving into more, and it seemed like I had waited long enough and I might as well see what it was all about. … read more >


It was one week before my 24th birthday when I found out that my diligent birth control efforts were fallible. The decision to not be pregnant by the time I turned 24 was one of the most straightforward I have ever made. … read more >


I was 26 years old when I had my abortion. I was a single mom to a 3 year old and I had a full time job and my own place. I would have had no issues adding another child to my life. I'd been divorced almost a year and the first man I dated after my marriage ended was controlling and abusive. I had nightmares that if I didn't leave him that one day he'd murder me. … read more >


Brooklyn NY 1988. Newly Divorced, single, waiting tables, doing off-off Broadway. Restaurant Christmas party-a temp bartender who'd been flirting w me for 2 months walked me home...and left the next morning, never to return, and never to flirt w me again. … read more >


When I was 16 (going on 17...!) I lost my virginity to a college guy. I don't remember even really know what was going on but the next thing I knew I was pregnant. This was 3 years after Roe v. Wade and I had no idea at all what was happening to my body. … read more >


I was a sophomore in college when I got into a relationship with an abusive boyfriend. I was young and stupid and had no idea how I was supposed to be treated. When he verbally berated me, physically pushed me around, and forced me to have sex with him, I just thought it was part of a relationship... in church I had learned "obey thy husband" (or boyfriend, in this case). … read more >


I became pregnant when I was 19 in the spring of 1984. I never considered any other option than abortion. I was a college freshman just finishing my final exams and I knew that finishing college wouldn't happen. Plus I would have had to leave home and raise the child on my own. Without an education and a decent income, this would have been selfish. … read more >


I was 33, divorced with two little boys. I was struggling to provide for them. My doctor discovered a breast lump and I had no health insurance and was terrified about who would take care of my boys if I died. … read more >


I'm 26. In 2008 I had a child who was born at 30 weeks. I had many complications, my kidneys almost failed, and my daughter ended up dying. After spending several years drinking and wallowing, I got my life together, I went to college, got a job at Planed Parenthood and began my life again. … read more >


My story is simple and almost normal. I was 17. The guy who I had been in a relationship with (both emotional and sexual relationship) had up and vanished without a text or call or even break up before I found out. … read more >


I was 20, days away from 21, when I found out I was pregnant. I was raised pro life and that I would go to Hell if did such a thing, however, I knew immediately I wanted an abortion. … read more >


I want everybody who has ever had an abortion to read this. I had an abortion. I'm not ashamed. And I won't let myself hurt over it anymore. … read more >


I was in my 30's, and what should have been the a wonderful experience of being pregnant was a complete nightmare. I found out I was pregnant by a guy I felt I was dating and meant the world to me. I very quickly realized I meant nothing to him. … read more >


I was 43 when I became pregnant for the first time. I had been sexually active, often without contraception, since my early teens and had begun to think that getting pregnant was something that just wasn't going to happen to me. … read more >


I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. We know that we want to be together forever, but we are both in school right now. I am a freshman in my second semester, and he is a sophomore in his. Both of us have a few years of school left, and we are waiting until we are done to start our lives together. Currently we are doing long distance, and it's been extremely hard. I stopped taking my birth control about 7 months ago because I was forgetful and it wasn't effective for me. … read more >


The abortion I had at 24 in 1991 did society a favor. When I learned the news, I was abusing alcohol terribly. Aware of the damage alcohol does to a developing fetus, I simply couldn't stop drinking. I felt nothing except relief once the procedure was finished and still do, to this day.


I was 19 and had been dating a guy for about three months when we discovered I had become pregnant. We were on a vacation when I began to have severe, almost unbearable, cramps. I was expecting my period any day but I knew something was not right. … read more >


I had an abortion when I was 18. I had been feeling nauseated for a few days. My friend stood with me while I watched the test develop two pink lines. On the drive home we talked a little about abortion but I just wasn't sure. … read more >


14 years ago today my son was born. He weighed in at 1lbs 10oz. Had the sweetest little cheeks and a full head of the blackest hair I'd ever seen...he had ten tiny little fingers and ten tiny little toes... he was also very broken inside... instead of a 4 chamber heart with 4 values, he had a 2 chamber heart with 2 valves and transposed arteries, he had a chromosome defect and likely other internal abnormalities that were yet to be diagnosed...I held him for hours and traced every part of his face with my finger and permanently etched it in my mind. … read more >


When I was 18 I got pregnant. Abortion was illegal then and I couldn't find the back alley. The boy, his parents and my mother pressured me to get married. All the money I had saved for college went for maternity expenses. … read more >


I had an abortion at 17, and I know I made the right decision. I met a guy during my celebrations after finishing high school. He was from New Zealand, he was older, he was 19, he was my first real boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him. We had fun at first, but there was no love there, just the empty joy of your first lustful romance. This older boy pressured me into sex without protection, I knew better.. I told myself this was risky, but I agreed anyway. I wanted to please him. … read more >


It was the night before my first day of being a senior in highschool, just sixteen soon to turn seventeen a few weeks later, when I finally decided to stop being in denial and take a pregnancy test. Turns out my worst fears were now reality. It's shocking, it almost takes your breath away. … read more >


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