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I was 21 and I was traveling. While abroad I was raped by my tour guide. I was leaving the country the very next day and all I could think about was going somewhere new and forgetting what he did to me that night when he took everything. … read more >


At 23, with two little children, I was finally on the path to getting on my feet. I had left my occasionally abusive husband and was going to college. I figured three more years of welfare and food stamps and I would be self supporting if I stuck with my college plan. … read more >


The choice of abortion for women should not be decided by government officials, of those officials, majority being men who will never have to make the decision for themselves. I had just turned 21. I had only been dating my boyfriend for a year when my body started feeling... Weird. … read more >


I will not apologize for my abortion. I am not ashamed. I know without a doubt that my choice was the right choice for me. People who know me probably know this, because I am not shy about discussing my story. I have told this story before, and I will likely tell it again. I will tell it as long as I feel it needs to be told. I will tell it as long as women’s reproductive rights and freedom to control their own bodies are at risk. This is my abortion story. … read more >


I was only 18, sure everyone says wait til marriage but sex is fun and I thought he was the one... I was wrong. … read more >


I read about this organization today in The Daily Beast and felt compelled to share my story in support of women's rights and freedom in the U.S. Growing up in an extremely conservative Christian household, I had been told since childhood the horrors and mental consequences of abortion. Although as a teen I decided to not pursue my family's religious views, I had kept a promise to myself that I would never abort my baby - no matter what the price. … read more >


I was 16. This was my very first abortion. I was with the father for almost 2 years my relationship with him wasn't stable. I took so many pregnancy test and every one of them were positive and that's when reality hit me like boarder. … read more >


It was 2006 and my relationship was still early and the birth control I had started was in the first month and had not kicked in yet, we were safe, but not safe enough. … read more >


I wasn’t raped or physically abused. I was 17 and dumb and still very much a child myself. My parents weren’t around much and I wanted so badly to feel loved by a guy. I thought you achieved this love through sex. Clearly I had a lot of self-esteem issues. … read more >


I was brutally raped by 3 senior girls who then let some football players have at me. … read more >


I lived in a world where everything was disposable and where you simply got rid of what you didn’t want. No questions, no regrets. I never saw myself as a woman with many children or knew the meaning of the word “family”. … read more >


I was 20 years old and dating the love of my life... We got pregnant and were terrified but were coming to terms. He was in a prestigious school in a large city a few hours away. We had just about accepted the news at 10 weeks when I went in for an ultrasound and found out that we had a missed miscarriage (the baby did not survive but my body did not expel it). … read more >


At the age of 21 I had been struggling with extreme depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder for over 6 years. Due to my family's financial background, I had never been able to secure regular medical care for these issues. I had also never been able to use hormonal contraceptives due to the effects worsening my already fragile mental health. … read more >


My partner and I were living in different cities and struggling through a long distance relationship. I had just taken a dream job as a trauma nurse at a respected hospital and did not want to move to him at the time. I was on the Nuva ring. I discovered I was 3 weeks pregnant after approximately a week of vomiting. … read more >


When my baby was just over a year and a half old, my stomach started getting very big. I just knew I was pregnant, although I did not feel too nauseated. So my husband and I stopped using condoms because we thought we were going to have another baby. However, it turns out that I was having problems with digestion, and most likely I was not pregnant until we stopped using condoms. … read more >


I will admit, for me the 1st month after my abortion there was moments it was hard. I am 24 years old, have been happily married, and have a career I'm excelling in. It was hard because in society(especially living in the southern Bible Belt) I knew I would be viewed as a fine situation for a mother. But, I just had a career change. I had a great kick start with my job when I found out I was pregnant. … read more >


My abortion is associated with so many emotions. They come at unexpected times, but they always go quickly. While it may have taken me time to be completely at peace with my decision, I now feel that it gave me a new chance at life. I was able to prevent an inappropriate and toxic relationship from becoming a permanent part of my life and for that, I am forever thankful. … read more >


I had an abortion at age 26. At the time I was 3 years into a relationship, but it was rocky, and neither of us felt prepared to commit to raising a family. I live in Canada where there isn't nearly the powerful vitriol aimed at women's reproductive rights, but there are still factions, and the funny part was that I called a number I saw on a bus sign "pregnant? don't know what to do?" without properly researching (the internet was not as fully evolved then as it is now) and ended up at a pro-life headquarters asking for an abortion. … read more >


I was a recent graduate and new to living in the USA. My boyfriend was Catholic and we had been using the natural method of contraception. It didn't work. … read more >


I had my abortion 15 years ago and I've never regretted it. I was 33 years old and already had 2 children, ages 2 and 5. The 3rd pregnancy was unplanned. … read more >

Lisa Bessen

I am 26 and have had two abortions. For the first one, I was 23 and about to graduate from college. My boyfriend and I at the time relied on the pull out method which worked... until it didn't (dumb, I know). … read more >


I was 21 years old and so happy to be making my own way in the world. I had a full-time job and had just moved out of my parents' home after coming home from college. I paid my own bills and bought my own groceries and didn't have to answer to anyone because I was all grown up:). … read more >


I was 20 years old, dating the love of my life (25 years later, still together). I was a sophomore in college, and felt I was doomed to repeat my mother's history. … read more >


I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I were at the pool in my mom's neighborhood. I came out of the restroom with a look on my face that signaled the "it's positive" results. I knew immediately what I wanted to do. I felt bad for being so sure. I felt it was wrong for feeling so confident in my decision. I knew it was bad timing, he wasn't THE guy for me, I was just starting college, and i just felt it. Planned Parenthood saved me. … read more >


In 1969 abortion was illegal and women died and got horrible infections from trying to abort themselves some used coat hangers and there was the real possibility of death and sterility. … read more >


I'd had horrible periods all along with bad clotting, back pain, heavy flow, and migraine headaches. In my early 30's, after my only pregnancy, I went to find out why I'd literally been sick off and on for 6 straight months. They found out I had Uterine Fibroids. They were per-cancerous and just large enough to make getting pregnant again, dangerous. I was seeing someone during all this, and since my body chemistry was fighting birth control, I got pregnant. I made the choice to have the abortion procedure. I have never regretted it, not even to this day.


To this day, my abortion Pippa and I are really close. Really, we are. She’s not homesick in the slightest. I attribute that to our amicable termination. I was 21 and in college. Neither one of us expected to share my womb for 9 months. … read more >


It was my last semester of college and it was his 3rd years. I was living in a dorm and I supported myself. My parents were never able to contribute to my education , I worked all through school and I didn't have the resources to bring a child into this world. … read more >


I have had two abortions. The first one was in 1970, before Roe v. Wade. I was 16 years old and so dumb that I got pregnant. My father had died 18 months before; my mother had just begun her recovery from alcoholism. I was a mess. I decided that I could not have a child, but did not know what to do. I tried to induce a miscarriage by throwing myself off of a ski mobile and by being careless in other ways. That did not work. … read more >


I had my abortion when I was 22 and in an unhealthy relationship. We knew we weren't going to last as a couple, weren't ready to be parents and couldn't provide a child with a loving (or safe) environment, so the decision was an easy one. I scheduled my appointment and had my abortion at a Planned Parenthood in Bellingham, WA. I was cared for, talked to (not at) and all my questions were answered. PP gave me comfort and confidence. And then I walked outside. … read more >


I was 13 when I had my abortion. It was 1970 and abortion was just legalized. My father was a pedophile, my mother was and still is a classic enabler. … read more >


I am one in three. I did not think I would be one in three. I did not expect to be one in three and my husband and I did not think we would choose to be one in three. There are no women or families who make this choice lightly or without lots of forethought. It is a choice of deep contemplation and some prognostication. … read more >


In the late 1970s, I was working on board a ship when I found out it wasn't seasickness. Against all odds - I was on birth control - I was 14 weeks pregnant! I had continued to have light periods, so I had no idea until the ship's doctor did the test while I was being treated for dehydration. Going through a heartbreaking divorce, I was not physically, financially or emotionally in any shape to become a mother. … read more >


I had an abortion when I was 18. I'd never had anyone talk to me about birth control (sex ed at school was a joke and I didn't come from a family that discussed such things). Some 18 year olds are responsible people with career goals-I wasn't. … read more >


I had two illegal abortions, one in England in 1961 which was careful and civilized, as well as expensive. The second one was in DC in 1965. This time it was scary, no anesthesia, and no follow-up care. The doctor who performed this abortion was said to be the preferred abortionist for Cabinet and Congressional wives and mistresses.


I was 25 years old; newly divorced; mom to my son, who was a toddler at the time. I'd just started putting myself through college and found myself pregnant after using the Sponge as contraception. Abortion was not a difficult decision for me. I was already stressed to my limits with parenting, school, and work. … read more >


I had an abortion 40 years ago. I got pregnant while I was on the pill. I was a single parent with two children and I had my hands full working full-time and caring for them. The would-be father did not want to help. I made the decision after much thought 12 weeks into the pregnancy. It was the best decision for the well-being of my little family and I have never regretted it.


I really had my heart set on December 27th for my abortion. December 27th meant I would only have to get through one, maybe two holiday celebrations with the clandestine knowledge that a body of cells was evolving inside me. … read more >


I was unhappily married at a young age (22), before I had enough life experience to realize that my husband was an alcoholic. By the time I became pregnant a few years later (with faulty birth control), I knew I wouldn't raise a child with him and needed to get out of the marriage. Getting an abortion was the first step and catalyst to my being brave enough to eventually leave him for the sake of creating my own life with the strength it took to make my own way. … read more >


I had an abortion in either my late 20's or very early 30's. It was a case of birth control failure, or maybe just a very active sex life. In all honesty I was not sure of parenthood, it could have been either of two men I was involved with. It was a time of hard partying and a lot of substance use. Absolutely no regrets about having the abortion. It was the correct action at the time. … read more >


I don't know how to do all the fancy link ups, but one of you can read my story AND USE MY REAL NAME, first and last!!! I got pregnant in 1972, when abortion was legal in Washington, DC, but before Roe v. Wade. I had a 2-year-old and was a single mom. There was no way I could manage another pregnancy, let alone another child! I had a legal abortion at about 10 weeks. A girlfriend went with me. I did not regret the abortion at the time. 44 years later, I still do not regret my decision. It was right then, and it still is right. I have never had a regret.

Penny Perrault Duff

I am 17, 18 in march I currently have a 7 month old baby. I found out i was pregnant again 2nd january 2016 i was so scared but excited at the same time, straight away i rang my partner and told him. … read more >


Hi, my name is Ariel. I am 22 years old and I live in San Antonio, Texas. In October of 2011 I had an abortion. I was about a month into my Freshman year of college and I had maybe $90 to my name. I slept with one of my best friends twice and I accidentally got pregnant. … read more >


I'm from Canada. 24 years old, and I had an abortion today. I am writing this for anyone who may be scared of the procedure - I know I was terrified. … read more >


I was in my early twenties and in a serious relationship. The ONE time we go without protection and I found out I was pregnant. Although our relationship was serious (we were together 4 years) I knew he wasn't the one and more importantly, neither of us were even close to being ready to have a child. I have absolutely no regrets having an abortion. Now, in my mid thirties, I am happily married and have 2 wonderful girls.


I always knew I wanted children, I had a list of names chosen since my middle school years. If only adulthood were as amazing as perceived during childhood... … read more >


I became pregnant at the age of 23. My partner and I had been together for 2.5 years. We were content in our relationship. We had always discussed the possibility of me getting pregnant and what we would do in that situation and from day one we had decided that we would have an abortion. Both in college without jobs, we wanted to be settled, secure and able to provide for a child when the time came and we both knew that we would not be able to do that financially or mentally at any point in the near future. … read more >


I am 20 years old and a University student. I found out I was pregnant about a month ago by a guy I had been casually seeing for the past year. I am a premed student and he is an anesthesiology resident. Shortly after the "incident" I made the decision to cut my ties with this fellow because I felt that our casual relationship was preventing me from moving on. I wound up pregnant and suddenly he was back in my life. … read more >


I grew up in a roundly abusive house where everyone tiptoed around my father. Being strong-willed and independent, we clashed often; consequently, I left home at thirteen by "running away." … read more >


I was 18, and I was 6 weeks. I chose a medical abortion. My heart begged me not to do it, but my life at the time wasn't together. … read more >


It was my first semester of college and a hookup. We had sex one time and that was all it took. My period usually arrives right on the dot, so when I was two weeks late I knew I was pregnant. … read more >


I gave birth to my second child, a son, when I was 20 years old. Promptly following the 6 week check up, I went on oral birth control. 3 months after his birth my period stopped. Thinking it was just adjusting to the BC I figure it was nothing. A month passed and still no period. Curiosity peaked, I bought a cheap 1 dollar pregnancy test from the store thinking it would be negative and my fear would dissipate. Man, was I wrong. … read more >


I was 27 and had been married for eight years, and separated for four months. I had two young daughters, and just graduated with my associates degree. My estranged husband had been abusive in a number of ways, and one afternoon, he came into the house and raped me. I knew I was pregnant three weeks later - I was constantly vomiting the same way I was with my previous pregnancies. I also knew immediately that I could not carry this pregnancy. I would never be able to support three kids - I was already struggling to support my daughters, and I knew he had done that on purpose to try to force me back to him. … read more >


I was 19 years old. Second year of College. A lifetime of goals and dreams ahead. I became pregnant by my boyfriend of 5 years. … read more >


I was in my early 20's. In love but I knew he was abusive and cruel. He had a little girl he never went to see. I did exactly what my heart said no to do but my mind said I must do. I had an abortion. … read more >


I had an abortion over 30 years ago. It was not a big deal, it was not at Planned Parenthood with screaming protesters...and it was so long ago I don't remember all the details. … read more >


I had my first and only abortion at a Planned Parenthood center in April of 2013. Protesters stood outside, calling me a "young mother" and asking me not to do it. I was 22, scared, and miserable. … read more >


I am 29. I found out that I was pregnant after I felt my breasts felt sore and I had nausea. I went to the doctor immediately. … read more >


I feel the details are not important; I am one of many-- if we were just honest with each other. But, I'd like to say that when the actual day arrived of the abortion, it was more medical than we let the media tell us it is. If congress would let us direct our medical care with our doctor, the world would be a more compassionate place-- in all stages of life. … read more >


I'm 24 and happily engaged. My partner and I always relied on withdrawal, which worked for many years, so I was (maybe stupidly) surprised when I found out I was pregnant. I decided abortion was my best option because I make very little money and live ~800 miles away from my partner/family right now. I went to Planned Parenthood on Dec 6th, 2015 (I was ~6 weeks by this time), and the experience was as pleasant as it gets because of the lovely staff. … read more >


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