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The abortion I had at 24 in 1991 did society a favor. When I learned the news, I was abusing alcohol terribly. Aware of the damage alcohol does to a developing fetus, I simply couldn't stop drinking. I felt nothing except relief once the procedure was finished and still do, to this day.

Jennifer

I was 19 and had been dating a guy for about three months when we discovered I had become pregnant. We were on a vacation when I began to have severe, almost unbearable, cramps. I was expecting my period any day but I knew something was not right. … read more >

Cheyenne

I had an abortion when I was 18. I had been feeling nauseated for a few days. My friend stood with me while I watched the test develop two pink lines. On the drive home we talked a little about abortion but I just wasn't sure. … read more >

Brittany

14 years ago today my son was born. He weighed in at 1lbs 10oz. Had the sweetest little cheeks and a full head of the blackest hair I'd ever seen...he had ten tiny little fingers and ten tiny little toes... he was also very broken inside... instead of a 4 chamber heart with 4 values, he had a 2 chamber heart with 2 valves and transposed arteries, he had a chromosome defect and likely other internal abnormalities that were yet to be diagnosed...I held him for hours and traced every part of his face with my finger and permanently etched it in my mind. … read more >

Tanya

When I was 18 I got pregnant. Abortion was illegal then and I couldn't find the back alley. The boy, his parents and my mother pressured me to get married. All the money I had saved for college went for maternity expenses. … read more >

Susan

I had an abortion at 17, and I know I made the right decision. I met a guy during my celebrations after finishing high school. He was from New Zealand, he was older, he was 19, he was my first real boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him. We had fun at first, but there was no love there, just the empty joy of your first lustful romance. This older boy pressured me into sex without protection, I knew better.. I told myself this was risky, but I agreed anyway. I wanted to please him. … read more >

Ella

It was the night before my first day of being a senior in highschool, just sixteen soon to turn seventeen a few weeks later, when I finally decided to stop being in denial and take a pregnancy test. Turns out my worst fears were now reality. It's shocking, it almost takes your breath away. … read more >

Alyssa

I've been with my boyfriend for four years and have lived with him most of that time. When I got pregnant, I immediately knew I wanted an abortion and he agreed with me. We aren't ready for children financially or mentally. … read more >

Katie

I was 16 going on 17, my boyfriend at the time was crap. He was abusive and manipulative, he though I would him since I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend a year before. He would call me a whore and would coerce and force me into having sex with him. After I found out about him cheating on me I went to the clinic, I was tired and I wanted to know I was okay, no STD's. … read more >

Fatima

Let me start this by saying, my entire life I have been pro choice. I always knew it was each individual’s right to decide what they did with their body regardless of the circumstances. Little did I know one day I would be making that decision on my own. … read more >

Anonymous

In the twelve years of being sexually active, I found myself in a position that never crossed my mind. There were a few times I could have easily gotten pregnant, but didn't, due to luck and/or PCOS. But, one night, I made the mistake of not using a condom. … read more >

Ellie

I was 20 years old when I found out I was pregnant. It was just two weeks after I had finally gotten out of an unhealthy relationship that fed my low self-esteem and low self-worth. … read more >

Nikki

I look back now and realize that even though I was educated and very capable, I was also very young and naive. I was 18 years old, a freshman in college and in my first serious relationship, all while dealing with my father's illness and death later that year. A powder keg of change and stress - to deal with it I spent almost all of my time with my boyfriend, trying not to think about the future. … read more >

Anonymous

It was a month after I tried to commit suicide that I was raped. While driving myself home after the rape, I could feel what he had left behind in me. the only idea that was going through my mind was how could I forget about it and go to work the next day. … read more >

Lindsey

I'm 23 and already have two beautiful little girls, my youngest being 6 months old. Right after having my baby I got the paragard iud placed in. 3 months later we learn I'm pregnant and my iud has embedded itself into me. … read more >

Lisa

I was 15 when I got pregnant. My boyfriend at the time and I weren't using any form of birth control -- he was just pulling out. The one time he didn't pull out was the time I got pregnant. … read more >

Anna

In the spring of 2009 I gave birth to my second child Ethan. He had red hair, big blue eyes, and owned my heart from the moment he was conceived. However, in October of that year he started getting sick. … read more >

Jennifer

My mouth began to open wide like a scream and I couldn't shut it at all. … read more >

Katiri

I first had sex shortly before I turned 17, but knew well beforehand that if I were to ever get pregnant before I was ready to raise a baby, I would have an abortion. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 21 at the time, I had been dating Ian for over a year and a half, when I became pregnant. I found out I was pregnant mothers day weekend of 2011. When I told Ian we were at his friends Sean's house. Ian had told a girl named Jesse, who sent him a text saying "it will ruin things for us". Ian immediately went on line looking to get me into an abortion clinic the very next day. I didn't get a chance to make a choice. Fortunately and unfortunately no abortion clinic will let you have an abortion that quickly. The papers you print out to get the abortion are dated and require 48 hours in between the signing and the actual abortion day. Ian was pissed. I told him I didn't want the abortion. He screamed we fought constantly about it. Ian even took me into an abortion clinic and told me to sign the papers three days later. The clinic wouldn't do it for another 6 day's. I kept telling Ian I didn't want the abortion. Ian kept telling me he would have to join the army to take care of me, that he would have to marry me and his parents would hate me. Ian even blamed me for getting pregnant. Ian tried saying I had gotten pregnant on purpose. Eventually Ian even threatened to kill himself if I had the baby, telling me that every one would hate me and the baby. Even telling me that I would never find anyone who would want me with a baby. Ian constantly guilt tripped me into having the abortion. I had even told him I would leave him and have a layer draw up papers saying he didn't need to pay child support, I told him, he didn't have to be a father, I wouldn't write his name on the birth certificate. Everything I tried was not enough. Ian called me constantly, I couldn't have a moment to myself. I was constantly being threatened for not wanting an abortion. Ian even tried cutting himself in front of me. Ian broke me down, until I gave in. Ian even had me pay for the abortion. I have hated myself even seance the abortion for not protecting my baby like I should have. We broke up after three-year's together. Ian I later found out forced me to have the abortion for the girl Jesse who Ian was cheating on me with the whole relationship. Ian abused me mentally, emotionally, sexualy and socially. I had Stalkhome syndrome from all the abuse.

Carmen

I was 25. I had no idea I was pregnant for the first 12 weeks. I took a trip home to Pennsylvania from New Mexico where I was living and found my body rejecting alcohol, smoking, and chocolate milk. I knew something was strange so I took two different pregnancy tests. Both came up with an error and so I tossed them out and thought nothing of it for a little while. … read more >

Codie

I was 20 years old when I found out I was pregnant. I had gotten a copper IUD inserted just 4 months before when I began dating my then-boyfriend who wanted to have sex without condoms. … read more >

Rebecca

I knew that you should use condoms. I had one with me all the time. My high school boyfriend and I just didn't use them. "Pulling out totally works" he said to me once... *massive eye-roll". … read more >

Danielle

I was twenty-one and still in college when I found out I was pregnant even though I had used protection faithfully. From the moment I found out, there was no question that I'd end the pregnancy. I didn't want to be a parent - ever - and certainly not at that moment. … read more >

Jill

I had no idea how important abortion was until I found out the hard way that it can be the only way to end a pregnancy. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 30 years old, married, and undergoing cancer treatment when my oral birth control failed. The doctor admitted he hadn't warned me the medications would reduce the effectiveness of contraception because he didn't think my husband would want me while my hair was falling out and before I could have reconstructive surgery. … read more >

Anonymous

I was a Junior in college when I got pregnant. I had just turned 21 and was madly in love with my college sweetheart of 3 years. He already had a well paying full time job and we we're planning our wedding for the year after graduation. I could see my future ahead of me shining bright, one that never included children. … read more >

Anna

When I first learned what abortions were, I immediately said I would never do it if I ever became pregnant. Years later in my mid twenties, I began a new relationship with someone that I really loved but our income and living situation wasn't right to raise a child at that moment in time. We definitely did not plan for it. We immediately decided to get an abortion. … read more >

Bridget

I was teaching junior high in a small rural town. I was 2.5 mos pregnant & very excited about the baby. Then, a strain of measles called rubella hit our school. Because I got no rad or any symptoms, I thought I was OK. However, at my regular pre-natal check up, my doctor discovered I did indeed have rubella.after checking with other doctors and our state University med school, he explained to my husband and me that there was over a 90% chance our baby would be severely physically and mentally deformed. After watching the struggles regular kids had in this world, we decided not to bring a baby in the world with a huge chance of real problems, so I had an abortion. I have never been sorry or regretted the choice.

Dannielle

I was 19 and in college and I had to make the biggest decision of my life. To have a baby whose father was a drug user and a drinker. Who had already cheated on me and then dumped me. Did I really want to have a child with an individual who months after we had broken up, wanted to have sex with me, so he pinned me to the floor of a friends house, covered my mouth forcing me to be silent. … read more >

Stephanie

I was changing health care programs and missed one month of birth control pills. My husband and I (we were married for only 6 months) later found out I was 6-weeks pregnant. I was a college student working a full-time internship earning $3000 a year. He was making a few hundred dollars a month as a telemarketer. We did not have any family nearby. Neither of us were ready to take on a lifelong responsibility on our own. … read more >

Anonymous

At ten weeks I learned that my second pregnancy had an anomaly, heterotaxy combined with a congenital heart defect. The odds of survival outside of the womb were all bad. … read more >

Anonymous

Two years ago i was 14 years old and in an abusive relationship with my boyfriend. After a year together he raped me and that was how i lost my virginity. Soon after I was nauseated all the time and had missed two periods. I took a pregnancy test which confirmed my worst fear and then took another 2 weeks trying to figure out what was the right thing to do. … read more >

Anonymous

I write down this story with my beautiful 3 month old daughter asleep in my arms. As I approached my late thirties without yet finding the live of my life I decided to simply go ahead and have a child on my own. … read more >

Kat

I was 27, in my second year of graduate school and in the second year of a four year work contract when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant. The father, and my then boyfriend, did not care to have a child and I was unprepared to have one by myself. It was a lose-lose choice as far as I was concerned, yet I am grateful that I had the choice. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 22 and in the midst of a deep depression. To cope, I engaged in a lot of reckless behavior. I couldn't feel happy, but I wanted to feel something. … read more >

Anonymous

I had an abortion in 1969. I had tried to get birth control pills but the doctor refused to give me a prescription because he didn't believe in premarital sex. I ended up getting pregnant. I have since been married twice and have chosen not to have any children. I have NEVER regretted the decision to have an abortion.

Carol

I am 57 years old and just two people know I have had an abortion - my partner at the time and my sister. I have never told a soul - until now - that I have actually had three. The shame has been too great. … read more >

Elizabeth

I was 22 when I had my abortion. I had just graduated college and moved across the country to live with my boyfriend. I was on birth control, but not diligent about taking it, I used to joke with my friends that I was infertile. … read more >

Kate

I got pregnant with my boyfriend when I was 28. We were having unprotected sex and daydreaming about "what if" I got pregnant. When I found out I actually was pregnant I felt so overwhelmed and sad but decided I had made my bed and I had to lie in it. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 19 years old when I found out I was pregnant by a person who would have taken no responsibility. I was studying abroad in Scotland (then, a predominantly Catholic country) and had the procedure, which resulted in a copious amount of bleeding and much pain. The nurses were less than sympathetic and one told me I deserved my suffering (as if I had not carefully considered and felt terrible about ending a life). … read more >

Elizabeth

I had an abortion when I was 20, in 2007. I had been on the Depo shot, but issues with it resulted in my going off of it, and the doctor at Planned Parenthood told me that it could take up to 18 months for the medicine to get completely out of my system, and sent me home with birth control pills instead, which I never started taking. … read more >

Anonymous

I had my first abortion when I have 18. The only person who knew was my boyfriend, he didn't handle it well and didn't realize how hard it was for me. … read more >

Anonymous

I got pregnant a year and a half ago, when I was 22, and you know what, I wanted to have it. I wanted to have it but the “father” didn’t. He went through something of a four stage reaction. Stage one: block my number. Stage two: unblock it so he could send me texts threatening to hurt/kill me if I didn’t terminate. Stage three: Answer my calls just to say I was the last person he wanted to have a baby with, and stage four: promptly re-block my number. I wish I could have been a strong single mother, but I wasn’t even sure I could keep myself safe. How was I going to protect a baby? … read more >

Anonymous

Thirty years ago I had an abortion and have no regrets. I was 30 years old, divorced and raising my four year old daughter. I was being responsible and using birth control (diaphram) and it failed. I was six weeks pregnant when I had the abortion, and it was the most difficult decision I've ever had to make. … read more >

Linda

I had an abortion in June. The guy who got me pregnant also got another girl pregnant (his girlfriend) who decided to keep it. I was sixteen, a junior in high school, and terrified. … read more >

Anonymous

I am 23 years old. I had my abortion in May of this year. I have never wanted children. I have never wanted to carry a thing inside of me that is not part of me. The very thought chills me to the bone. … read more >

Li

I was 20 at the time I found out that I was pregnant. For weeks in December I felt incredibly hungry, my lower back was in searing pain a majority of the time, and my pelvic bones physically felt like they were stretching out and growing. I disregarded it as growing pains since I was still young. … read more >

Anonymous

My husband and I have 3 daughters, current ages 10, 14, and almost 18. When the youngest was only 5 months old I discovered I was pregnant again. The baby was supposed to be our last. We had just bought a house and we made the decision together that it wouldn't be responsible of us to bring another child into the family. I didn't want to go to a clinic or my doctor to get it done so I found a website where I could get pharmaceuticals to take care of it on my own. … read more >

Anonymous

It's finals week for my first semester of grad school, and I had my first abortion yesterday - on my first anniversary with my boyfriend. The past 48 hours have been a blur, though more out of stress for finals than for the decision I made. There was never any question about that. … read more >

Anonymous

In my second year of college, when I was 18 years old, I was very sexually inexperienced. I had only ever kissed a couple of guys in high school, and nothing more than that. I also had a very low self-esteem, as I felt I was not attractive at all, and my inability to date furthered this belief. By my second year of college, I had pretty much shut down emotionally. … read more >

Kylie

I was seventeen when I had an abortion. I am white, middle class and educated. Instead of being open and talking to me about sex and allowing me to go on birth control, my parents simply expected me to not have sex and also never brought it up. … read more >

Anonymous

I think about the choice I made to have an abortion everyday of my life. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 16 years old and in high school. I was in my first real relationship, but with a guy I think I knew I wouldn't be with forever. I was in love with him, but also knew he lied to me and cheated on me regularly. … read more >

Anonymous

I was 23 when I found out I was pregnant. I had just gotten my first job after graduated college. I was accepted into the Nursing residency for new graduates. … read more >

Veronica

Here’s the Situation I am so thirsty. My throat fells as if it’s on fire. My stomach is full and my breasts heavy. Opening my eyes I see the vomit at the bottom of my bucket. I keep new bags and wash cloths next to my bed to help when I’m alone. But tonight felt different. I can feel tension as my boyfriend studied for his finals. I haven’t been to class in weeks because of the sudden turn in my pregnancy. … read more >

Charity

I have had two abortions. I had my first abortion when I was twenty-three. I was employed, saving to travel the world, and madly in love. Unfortunately he was on the other side of the world that I wanted to travel to and a very bad letter writer. … read more >

Anna

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for five years. I am very blessed to have such a wonderful partner; he's sweet, he moved out of state with me for work, he supports (most things) I do and he loves me. For these reasons, I know one day, I want to have a baby with him. … read more >

Ashley

I was 18 when I had an abortion. It was the hardest choice I've ever made. … read more >

Anonymous

I’ve been dreading today nearly as much as I’m fearing tomorrow. … read more >

Ellie

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